Comments on: Do Social Media Tools Make Us Less Social Where It Counts Most? http://www.davidwmullen.com/2009/02/05/do-social-media-tools-make-us-less-social-where-it-counts/ David Mullen on PR, Integrated Communications and Social Media Wed, 07 Jul 2010 17:15:53 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Is Social Media Turning Us Into The Matrix? « Strategic Social Media http://www.davidwmullen.com/2009/02/05/do-social-media-tools-make-us-less-social-where-it-counts/#comment-2863 Is Social Media Turning Us Into The Matrix? « Strategic Social Media Wed, 03 Jun 2009 04:39:59 +0000 http://davidwmullen.com/?p=981#comment-2863 [...] the same question, one from his video blog, and another who realized he was being unsocial while on his computer during a Superbowl party.   There is even a survey trying to figure out the [...] [...] the same question, one from his video blog, and another who realized he was being unsocial while on his computer during a Superbowl party.   There is even a survey trying to figure out the [...]

]]> By: Bettina@bestforbabes.org http://www.davidwmullen.com/2009/02/05/do-social-media-tools-make-us-less-social-where-it-counts/#comment-696 Bettina@bestforbabes.org Sun, 15 Feb 2009 15:01:16 +0000 http://davidwmullen.com/?p=981#comment-696 What a great post. I recently got a facebook "hangover" from an excess of superficial comments and a dearth of meaningful interaction. Ugh. How to use it to it's advantages without letting it become invasion of the body snatchers? What a great post. I recently got a facebook “hangover” from an excess of superficial comments and a dearth of meaningful interaction. Ugh. How to use it to it’s advantages without letting it become invasion of the body snatchers?

]]> By: amymengel http://www.davidwmullen.com/2009/02/05/do-social-media-tools-make-us-less-social-where-it-counts/#comment-695 amymengel Tue, 10 Feb 2009 16:22:51 +0000 http://davidwmullen.com/?p=981#comment-695 My husband instituted a Twitter ban during the SuperBowl when we had some friends over, and I ended up enjoying the game and commercials a lot more. The same thing happened this weekend with the Grammys. I was on a ski trip with nine friends and we turned on the TV to check snow reports and ended up watching Grammys. We all sat there offering up our own commentary (The hip-hop summit? Seriously?) and it turned into a hilarious MST3K version of the Grammys. I could have probably read/heard some similar reactions from myTwitter friends, but I would've done it at the expense of my good pals sitting right next to me that I'd flown across the country to spend time with. My husband instituted a Twitter ban during the SuperBowl when we had some friends over, and I ended up enjoying the game and commercials a lot more.

The same thing happened this weekend with the Grammys. I was on a ski trip with nine friends and we turned on the TV to check snow reports and ended up watching Grammys. We all sat there offering up our own commentary (The hip-hop summit? Seriously?) and it turned into a hilarious MST3K version of the Grammys. I could have probably read/heard some similar reactions from myTwitter friends, but I would’ve done it at the expense of my good pals sitting right next to me that I’d flown across the country to spend time with.

]]> By: Mark Riggs http://www.davidwmullen.com/2009/02/05/do-social-media-tools-make-us-less-social-where-it-counts/#comment-694 Mark Riggs Mon, 09 Feb 2009 23:35:07 +0000 http://davidwmullen.com/?p=981#comment-694 Great post, David. I have noticed more and more the acceptance of taking "live" mobile devices into meetings, not only with colleagues, but with clients and being completely and utterly disengaged from a critical, business-building moment, only to be focused on something else that is probably out of their control at that moment anyway. The old catch phrase "a bird in the hand" applies here. Same with personal relationships as you mentioned. It is so easy to especially be caught up when it is your immediate family, whose valuable time we take for granted any way. Thanks for invoking the thought . . . for personal and professional reasons. Great post, David.

I have noticed more and more the acceptance of taking “live” mobile devices into meetings, not only with colleagues, but with clients and being completely and utterly disengaged from a critical, business-building moment, only to be focused on something else that is probably out of their control at that moment anyway.

The old catch phrase “a bird in the hand” applies here. Same with personal relationships as you mentioned. It is so easy to especially be caught up when it is your immediate family, whose valuable time we take for granted any way.

Thanks for invoking the thought . . . for personal and professional reasons.

]]> By: Jodi http://www.davidwmullen.com/2009/02/05/do-social-media-tools-make-us-less-social-where-it-counts/#comment-693 Jodi Mon, 09 Feb 2009 17:23:37 +0000 http://davidwmullen.com/?p=981#comment-693 Great post! Thank you. It's always very frustrating when you spend time with a friend or family member and they are on their phone checking all their social media sites, text messaging etc. I think we've all forgotten how rude it is to do that. I'm glad this has been pointed out and hope we will all think about that the next time we are guilty of this. It's all about the moment, stop and enjoy it! Great post! Thank you.

It’s always very frustrating when you spend time with a friend or family member and they are on their phone checking all their social media sites, text messaging etc. I think we’ve all forgotten how rude it is to do that. I’m glad this has been pointed out and hope we will all think about that the next time we are guilty of this.

It’s all about the moment, stop and enjoy it!

]]> By: Terry Morawski http://www.davidwmullen.com/2009/02/05/do-social-media-tools-make-us-less-social-where-it-counts/#comment-692 Terry Morawski Sun, 08 Feb 2009 16:58:14 +0000 http://davidwmullen.com/?p=981#comment-692 Great post. I fought the urge to be social webby during the Super Bowl, too. I suppose it's nice to know that Twitter is always there during a big event, just in case the people around you aren't especially clever or interesting. (Joking here, maybe?) All of the professional people I know with families struggle to find the right balance, and generally carry a significant amount of guilt about never spending enough time with their kids and spouse. I think time on the social web needs to be measured. So, if you've already got a World of Warcraft habit or are playing on several sports teams, etc., it's probably best to drop off the grid at home. I agree with others that you should dig into this idea a little more. Go ahead, buy yourself a Mr.Pibb for this one. You deserve it! Great post. I fought the urge to be social webby during the Super Bowl, too. I suppose it’s nice to know that Twitter is always there during a big event, just in case the people around you aren’t especially clever or interesting. (Joking here, maybe?)
All of the professional people I know with families struggle to find the right balance, and generally carry a significant amount of guilt about never spending enough time with their kids and spouse. I think time on the social web needs to be measured. So, if you’ve already got a World of Warcraft habit or are playing on several sports teams, etc., it’s probably best to drop off the grid at home.
I agree with others that you should dig into this idea a little more. Go ahead, buy yourself a Mr.Pibb for this one. You deserve it!

]]> By: Renee Lemley http://www.davidwmullen.com/2009/02/05/do-social-media-tools-make-us-less-social-where-it-counts/#comment-691 Renee Lemley Sat, 07 Feb 2009 23:10:12 +0000 http://davidwmullen.com/?p=981#comment-691 What you describe here is, indeed, something we all need to be conscious of...that is, "there's a time to tweet, and a time to talk." I recently explored this issue in a blog post asking "has the ping replaced the ring?" with so many people opting for online communication over "old school" communications (like the telephone). LOL. :) I try to make it a general rule not to answer my cell phone (or I at least excuse myself and step out of the room with it) whenever I'm with other people. I have the iPod Touch, so my mobile twittering is limited to wherever there is free/open wireless access. And while this has frustrated me (limiting me) from time to time, I think it might be a good thing for me, providing structure and limits when I might otherwise be tempted (as I am a twitter addict, er, enthusiast) to tweet at times when I should be looking up from my touchscreen. (Please, no one tell me how much I'm missing out on without unbridled mobile tweeting capabilities...I know, it pains me, but I refuse to buy an iPhone until they open up carrier selection beyond AT&T.) Anyway. I attended a local networking function called Ignite Baltimore #2 (www.ignitebaltimore.com) last week and people were live-tweeting it as they met (for the first time) other ppl they knew from twitter. I couldn't help but notice how funny it was to see everyone together with so many mobile devices in hand, fingertips blazing. But, yet, in that venue, the F2F and F2M (Face2Mobile) overlap felt natural, socially acceptable and I think it generally enhanced the broader reach of the event. I fully expect to see even more people at Ignite Baltimore #3 because of the real-time excitement generated via twitter. Enjoyed the post. Look forward to reading more on this topic. What you describe here is, indeed, something we all need to be conscious of…that is, “there’s a time to tweet, and a time to talk.”
I recently explored this issue in a blog post asking “has the ping replaced the ring?” with so many people opting for online communication over “old school” communications (like the telephone). LOL. :)
I try to make it a general rule not to answer my cell phone (or I at least excuse myself and step out of the room with it) whenever I’m with other people. I have the iPod Touch, so my mobile twittering is limited to wherever there is free/open wireless access. And while this has frustrated me (limiting me) from time to time, I think it might be a good thing for me, providing structure and limits when I might otherwise be tempted (as I am a twitter addict, er, enthusiast) to tweet at times when I should be looking up from my touchscreen.

(Please, no one tell me how much I’m missing out on without unbridled mobile tweeting capabilities…I know, it pains me, but I refuse to buy an iPhone until they open up carrier selection beyond AT&T.)

Anyway. I attended a local networking function called Ignite Baltimore #2 (www.ignitebaltimore.com) last week and people were live-tweeting it as they met (for the first time) other ppl they knew from twitter. I couldn’t help but notice how funny it was to see everyone together with so many mobile devices in hand, fingertips blazing. But, yet, in that venue, the F2F and F2M (Face2Mobile) overlap felt natural, socially acceptable and I think it generally enhanced the broader reach of the event. I fully expect to see even more people at Ignite Baltimore #3 because of the real-time excitement generated via twitter.

Enjoyed the post. Look forward to reading more on this topic.

]]> By: Linda Ld Jacobson, APR http://www.davidwmullen.com/2009/02/05/do-social-media-tools-make-us-less-social-where-it-counts/#comment-690 Linda Ld Jacobson, APR Sat, 07 Feb 2009 17:54:24 +0000 http://davidwmullen.com/?p=981#comment-690 Thanks for the reminder. Whenever I talk to clients about SM's various tools, I always caution them about the amount of time and effort involved. Then we have the "does it fit in with my goals and objectives" convo. The truth is that you can really lose yourself - and thus sight of your goals - in SM at the expense of F2F time that might provide a better yield. Thanks for the reminder. Whenever I talk to clients about SM’s various tools, I always caution them about the amount of time and effort involved. Then we have the “does it fit in with my goals and objectives” convo. The truth is that you can really lose yourself – and thus sight of your goals – in SM at the expense of F2F time that might provide a better yield.

]]> By: Kirk Phillips http://www.davidwmullen.com/2009/02/05/do-social-media-tools-make-us-less-social-where-it-counts/#comment-689 Kirk Phillips Sat, 07 Feb 2009 17:15:06 +0000 http://davidwmullen.com/?p=981#comment-689 Two words: eye contact. Not just at home, but at work. Have you had the experience of stopping by someone's office to chat and the other party carries on the conversation without raising their eyes from the monitor? Makes me feel irrelevant, unappreciated and disengaged. I make a point now to close my laptop when talking face-to-face with someone. Two words: eye contact.

Not just at home, but at work. Have you had the experience of stopping by someone’s office to chat and the other party carries on the conversation without raising their eyes from the monitor? Makes me feel irrelevant, unappreciated and disengaged. I make a point now to close my laptop when talking face-to-face with someone.

]]> By: Matt Batt http://www.davidwmullen.com/2009/02/05/do-social-media-tools-make-us-less-social-where-it-counts/#comment-688 Matt Batt Sat, 07 Feb 2009 03:20:03 +0000 http://davidwmullen.com/?p=981#comment-688 I'm not sure that any of us has a good answer or solution for this dilemma, but let me take my best stab at it... I feel that I'm not the only one of us that shook our heads at the thought of jumping on MySpace, Facebook or Twitter - passing them all off as "impersonal" and the next generation's way of communicating. This was typically followed by "why can't these kids just call each other or meet face-to-face?!" I'm happy to say that today...I get it. The reality is social media, email, phone, face-to-face, etc. are all ways that we communicate with others. My personal take is their must be a healthy mix of each in the toolbox of a successful communicator (regardless of industry). Personally, I schedule 2-3 times per day where I read, write or post on others blogs & engage in Twitter conversations. Sure there are times when I'm doing both at much greater daily frequencies, but the reality is social media is sprinkled into my daily communications schedule. At the end of the day, I don't think we should weight any form of communications more than others...or you may miss out OR fall behind:) Great discussion & I enjoy being a part of it! I’m not sure that any of us has a good answer or solution for this dilemma, but let me take my best stab at it…

I feel that I’m not the only one of us that shook our heads at the thought of jumping on MySpace, Facebook or Twitter – passing them all off as “impersonal” and the next generation’s way of communicating. This was typically followed by “why can’t these kids just call each other or meet face-to-face?!”

I’m happy to say that today…I get it. The reality is social media, email, phone, face-to-face, etc. are all ways that we communicate with others. My personal take is their must be a healthy mix of each in the toolbox of a successful communicator (regardless of industry). Personally, I schedule 2-3 times per day where I read, write or post on others blogs & engage in Twitter conversations. Sure there are times when I’m doing both at much greater daily frequencies, but the reality is social media is sprinkled into my daily communications schedule.

At the end of the day, I don’t think we should weight any form of communications more than others…or you may miss out OR fall behind:)

Great discussion & I enjoy being a part of it!

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